"It's A Matter of Trust"
by James Callner

New Book by James Callner

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“… an encyclopedia for treating OCD … and will help depression and anxiety disorders.”
~ Phil Kavanaugh, MD, Psychiatrist, Johns Hopkins School of Medicine

“… heartfelt, sincere, genuine. If you or someone you know is struggling with OCD, this book is a must-have! Sending a clear message that OCD is treatable.”
~ Dr. Robin Zasio, PsyD, LCSW,
Clinical Advisory Board – The International OCD Foundation

“Compelling, courageous, insightful, and informative.”
~ Donald Dufford, PhD, Director, Anxiety Treatment Services

“… sure to provide OCD sufferers with a deep sense of comfort… applicable tools that could help many break free from the grips of OCD.”
~ Craig Shirley, Senior Therapist and Co-Founder of The OCD Treatment Centre

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From author James Callner:  

“This is more than a memoir of my life living with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). It is more than my challenges and struggles with OCD. It is a book of hope, strategies, processes, tools, and solutions that I learned over several decades–all of which gave me my life back. I use them to this day and share them with you now. Living with OCD does not mean you cannot have a productive happy life. You can! For all of the courageous souls who take on OCD every day as I do: This book is for you.”

 

“I feel that every week should be OCD Awareness Week, and to honor those who are challenged every day with OCD, I offer you my book for free in .pdf form. Just click the link below. My book is loaded with solutions and tips that will help you get better. Take it one day at a time.” – James Callner

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Book Description:

If you are looking for empathy, compassion, kindness, hope, and practical tools for living with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), this book will help inspire you on your journey to recovery.

In 1982, author James Callner suffered a devastating mental breakdown and the onset of severe OCD. He was hospitalized for six weeks. He felt broken, lost, and terrified about what was happening to his life. He felt trapped with no way out. But there was a way out …

This hopeful and inspirational memoir is warm and casual and shares his recovery process. His care was multifaceted, including hospitalization, cognitive behavioral therapy, exposure response prevention therapy, and an array of innovative approaches.

With compassion, empathy, humor, and wisdom, James chronicles his more than three decades of getting the right help while living with OCD. He found that OCD robbed him of trust and infused him with fears and phobias about people, places, and things and debilitating anxiety. He simply didn’t trust life. He regained that trust by using helpful tools to reclaim his power—to trust himself again. In this book, he shares those tools to help with your recovery.

Click here for an excerpt from “It’s a Matter of Trust.”

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I does help. JC

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It does not help

Would You Rather?
Would you rather be loved or understood? In this context, I’m defining love as acceptance. I know love and understanding can go hand in hand, and many would say being understood is being loved, but I believe if you have OCD or any mental illness this question becomes vital to our trust in anyone. Whether it be significant others, family, friends, coworkers, doctors, or therapists, personally, I want to be understood because I know deep down that understanding has the potential to lead to real love. Understanding me as a person with OCD is paramount in creating a lasting friendship and relationship based in trust. In turn, I want to understand those that I relate with if they are willing to let me into their lives. Willingness is a big requirement for me. If they are not willing to understand, I’ll shift my expectations and develop a different type of relationship. And that’s OK. Many people just don’t have the capacity to understand, and there’s no judgment or shame in that.
At the writing of this post I’m in my mid sixties having managed OCD for over 36 years, and I’ve heard the stories of hundreds if not thousands of people in my life. In my opinion and experience, the big picture of humanity is that everyone has something they are dealing with mentally, from OCD to depression to anxiety to stress to worry. The list is endless. So, back to the question: Would you rather be loved or understood?
I say that trying to understand in a loving way is the answer to feeling better about yourself and feeling connected to others. And, let us all not forget to also love and understand ourselves. JC <3 P.S. Kite flying on the beach.
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3 weeks ago

Would You Rather? 
Would you rather be loved or understood? In this context, I’m defining love as acceptance. I know love and understanding can go hand in hand, and many would say being understood is being loved, but I believe if you have OCD or any mental illness this question becomes vital to our trust in anyone. Whether it be significant others, family, friends, coworkers, doctors, or therapists, personally, I want to be understood because I know deep down that understanding has the potential to lead to real love. Understanding me as a person with OCD is paramount in creating a lasting friendship and relationship based in trust. In turn, I want to understand those that I relate with if they are willing to let me into their lives. Willingness is a big requirement for me. If they are not willing to understand, I’ll shift my expectations and develop a different type of relationship. And that’s OK. Many people just don’t have the capacity to understand, and there’s no judgment or shame in that.
At the writing of this post I’m in my mid sixties having managed OCD for over 36 years, and I’ve heard the stories of hundreds if not thousands of people in my life. In my opinion and experience, the big picture of humanity is that everyone has something they are dealing with mentally, from OCD to depression to anxiety to stress to worry. The list is endless. So, back to the question: Would you rather be loved or understood?
I say that trying to understand in a loving way is the answer to feeling better about yourself and feeling connected to others. And, let us all not forget to also love and understand ourselves. JC

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Beautiful picture!! Really good question though isnt it - those of us who are people pleasers would like to be loved and understood and be 'perfect' in the mix

OCD Mantras vs. Recovery Mantras
(Definition of Mantra/ man·tra mantrə / noun
a statement or slogan repeated frequently.)
OCD has the mantra of, “One more time.”
Recovery as the mantra of, “I'll take the risk to stop.”
OCD has the mantra of, “What if?”
Recovery has the mantra of, “I don't know, so I'm going to stay in this moment.”
OCD has the mantra of, “You're not going to be okay.”
Recovery has the mantra of, “I can handle whatever comes my way.”
OCD has the mantra of, “If you don't think this thought or do this thing, disaster is on its way.”
Recovery has the mantra of, “I’ll handle what life brings me because I’m stronger than I think.”
OCD has the mantra of, “You have to.”
Recovery has the mantra of, “Bullies don't tell me what to do.”
OCD has the mantra of, “You're never going to get better.”
Recovery has a mantra of, “Thanks for sharing, but I'm not buying that.” JC <3
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OCD Mantras vs. Recovery Mantras 
(Definition of Mantra/ man·tra  mantrə / noun
a statement or slogan repeated frequently.)
OCD has the mantra of, “One more time.”
Recovery as the mantra of, “Ill take the risk to stop.”
OCD has the mantra of, “What if?”
Recovery has the mantra of, “I dont know, so Im going to stay in this moment.”
OCD has the mantra of, “Youre not going to be okay.”
Recovery has the mantra of, “I can handle whatever comes my way.”
OCD has the mantra of, “If you dont think this thought or do this thing, disaster is on its way.”
Recovery has the mantra of, “I’ll handle what life brings me because I’m stronger than I think.”
OCD has the mantra of, “You have to.”
Recovery has the mantra of, “Bullies dont tell me what to do.”
OCD has the mantra of, “Youre never going to get better.”
Recovery has a mantra of, “Thanks for sharing, but Im not buying that.” JC

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Great reminders

really love that " one more time "

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OCD Coaching Videos are not designed to replace professional OCD Therapy. They are intended to help in the education and coaching for those suffering with OCD. James Callner is an OCD Educator and Coach, teaching from over 35 years of his own recovery experience. The Coaching Videos, Blog Posts and other information on this website are not a replacement for a professional therapist. Mr. Callner contributes his videos to the OCD Treatment Centre in Taunton England. OCD Treatment Centre therapists approve all OCD Coaching Videos. .