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by James Callner, MA, AFOCD President. James Callner is an award winning writer, filmmaker and speaker on mental illness. I was desperate for solutions in 1982. That was the year my OCD symptoms hit their peak. I was 29 years old, teaching at a local college,...

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If a thought doesn't bring you inner peace, don't follow it.

Here's a phrase or slogan I heard from my wonderful therapist, Sharon Davies - "If a thought doesn't bring you inner peace, don't follow it." Now in my experience, two things will happen when I hear a slogan like this; I will kind of believe it or kind of dismiss it as some spiritual stuff. If I go with the "dismissing it" thought, I almost immediately throw it out as a tool I could use to help myself. If I kind of - and I mean I don't have to fully believe it or do it perfectly- but, if I consider believing it - then, I set into motion a new healthy belief system with a new tool. So, I choose to believe it and now I catch myself almost every time an OCD thought comes along. I ask myself, am I going to label this as OCD and move on even if it persists? Or, am I going to follow the thought and exacerbate the obsession even more which will lead to anxiety. I choose to not follow OCD thoughts the best I can. This practice does get easier. JC <3
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If a thought doesnt bring you inner peace, dont follow it.

Heres a phrase or slogan I heard from my wonderful therapist, Sharon Davies  - If a thought doesnt bring you inner peace, dont follow it. Now in my experience, two things will happen when I hear a slogan like this; I will kind of believe it or kind of dismiss it as some spiritual stuff.  If I go with the dismissing it thought, I almost immediately throw it out as a tool I could use to help myself. If I kind of - and I mean I dont have to fully believe it or do it perfectly- but, if I consider believing it - then, I set into motion a new healthy belief system with a new tool. So, I choose to believe it and now I catch myself almost every time an OCD thought comes along. I ask myself, am I going to label this as OCD and move on even if it persists? Or, am I going to follow the thought and exacerbate the obsession even more which will lead to anxiety. I choose to not follow OCD thoughts the best I can. This practice does get easier. JC

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Thank you JC. You helped already

Life begins at the end of your confort zone. ~ Neale Donald Walsch. I’m going to paraphrase this great quote a bit for us. I believe - recovery begins at the end of your comfort zone. ... See MoreSee Less

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There’s a whole lot of uncomfortable waiting for me, but taking it slowly is what it’s all about👍

Dear Anxiety,

You've been around my life for almost all of my life and I've decide to finally take some real action. Most of my friends with anxiety might not understand this action - but in my experience with you, I believe this will be the most effect way to deal with your continual presences in my life. I've decided to stop fighting you. Now, that doesn't mean I'm surrendering either. Those two options are too black and white for the devastation you do to me. I'm taking an approach that might throw you - but it's my life not yours. I'm going to work with you. Not "for" or "against" but –“with.” When you do your thing to my adrenaline, I'm not going to freak out but I'm going to calm it down with soothing self talk and/or meditation. When you tell me my life is a disaster, I'm not buying that thought - but I will use mindfulness to stay present and grounded. When you make me sweat with fear, I'm going to connect with others that feel that same anxiety and humbly ask for help. When all else fails and nothing seems to work - I'm going to just feel the feelings of you - because you always pass. So, I'm going to stop complaining about you and start handling you differently. And that's a non-negotiable fact.

JC
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Dear Anxiety,

Youve been around my life for almost all of my life and Ive decide to finally take some real action. Most of my friends with anxiety might not understand this action - but in my experience with you, I believe this will be the most effect way to deal with your continual presences in my life. Ive decided to stop fighting you. Now, that doesnt mean Im surrendering either. Those two options are too black and white for the devastation you do to me. Im taking an approach that might throw you - but its my life not yours. Im going to work with you. Not for or against but –“with.” When you do your thing to my adrenaline, Im not going to freak out but Im going to calm it down with soothing self talk and/or meditation. When you tell me my life is a disaster, Im not buying that thought - but I will use mindfulness to stay present and grounded. When you make me sweat with fear, Im going to connect with others that feel that same anxiety and humbly ask for help. When all else fails and nothing seems to work - Im going to just feel the feelings of you - because you always pass. So, Im going to stop complaining about you and start handling you differently. And thats a non-negotiable fact. 
 
JC

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OCD Coaching Videos are not designed to replace professional OCD Therapy. They are intended to help in the education and coaching for those suffering with OCD. James Callner is an OCD Educator and Coach, teaching from over 35 years of his own recovery experience. The Coaching Videos, Blog Posts and other information on this website are not a replacement for a professional therapist. Mr. Callner contributes his videos to the OCD Treatment Centre in Taunton England. OCD Treatment Centre therapists approve all OCD Coaching Videos. .